Why Shouldn’t Dads Kiss Their Sons?
Fatherhood on Friday: If you’re creeped out by the image of a dad kissing his son on the cheek, we’re full of emotions for you. The biggest is pity.
We owe a great debt to John Cardillo for unleashing the full power of the Streisand Effect on one of our culture’s most ridiculous hangups: Men expressing affection.
Everyone should be lucky enough to have an affectionate father in their life.
So many emotions happening at once, here. At face value, you’ve got a dad hugging his adult son and kissing him on the cheek. But when you probe the context, you see a father and son who formed a singular bond while grieving the son’s mother, who died in a car wreck.
You burn a little knowing the tweet was meant to belittle the father, but you’re gratified by how ratioed the tweet is, overwhelmed with replies that “Yes, it’s absolutely appropriate.” You’re sad for those whose dads have died and wish they had the chance to be held and kissed again.
There are bigger themes here that relate to regressive masculinity, patriarchal insecurity, prurient hypersensitivity, and dash of homophobia. But since we’re in the business of raising boys to be good men, we support any opportunity for a young man to see his father expressing affection in a benign and supportive way.
When it comes to showing our sons we love them, we’re commissioned officers in the Kiss Army.
ON THE PODCAST: Darren W. Carter Has Burned A Lot of Meat
This episode’s title fits Cleveland Dads Group co-founder Darren W. Carter well, both as a foster parent of five and an aspiring pitmaster. Parenting and barbecue are sweet sciences that benefit from the mistakes you’re bound to make and learn from. He discusses how his faith helps temper his fears for the Black boys he’s raising, that time a cop pulled a gun on him, and whether he ever dated Halle Berry.
IN THE NEWS
Because ALS took the life of Jake Kennedy, whose Christmas in the City gala supports underprivileged kids, his son Zack is making it his life’s work to eradicate the disease.
Kolt Codner raised $12,300 for Akron Children’s Hospital by pushing himself to run the full 26 miles — one mile for each month of leukemia treatment his son Andrew has remaining.
Ten-year-old Romeo Cox decided what he wanted more than anything else was a hug from his 77-year-old grandmother, so he and his dad “walked and took boats” for the entire 1,700-mile journey.
Kim Isaak’s family will support her dad and participate in this year’s virtual Moving Day Chicago, which helps Parkinson’s sufferers learn new exercises to manage their symptoms.
When you talk to dads about why they resist taking paternity leave, cases like this one — when a judge allowed a dad to be fired after returning from his leave — come up.
Expectant father Rob Armstrong started a dad blog because “I didn’t see many guys or dads online that had blogs or anything like that.” Isn’t he adorable?
This dad designed a Halloween costume for his daughter that’s current as today’s temporary normal: A walking Zoom meeting.
A dad and his daughter have been posting mimicked shots from movies like The Shining, The Big Lebowski, and Legally Blonde, and their IG account has amassed 14,000 followers.
“The power of a printed book is hard to overstate, especially for growing children.” — Vincent O’Keefe, A Shelf of One’s Own: Reading Print Books Can Help Children in Pandemic
“I bent a lot — often when I probably shouldn’t have. By the time it was over, I had bent so much I was broken.” — Nic Casey, What It’s Like to Be Me: All Falls Apart Pt 3, Still Trying
“The manner in which he now told me he was bored suggested that he was so bored by his own bored om that he could barely muster the enthusiasm to speak of it at all.” — Mark O’Connell, “Dad, I’m Bored”: What I Learned From My Son’s Incurable Boredom
‘GRAM OF THE WEEK
These two right here are growing up so fast. I cant keep up anymore. I have to wave them down so…
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Originally published at https://dad2.com on October 23, 2020.