Words Can Still Win on the Wild West Web
Fatherhood on Friday: Words are formidable weapons, but they’re just as useful to build empathy as to attack it.
It’s time to reassess “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” because the sticks and stones are getting larger and pointier, and the words wielded on the Wild West Web are leaving worsening welts. While the platforms drag their heels toward self-regulation and grass-roots organizations lobby more aggressively for government oversight, parents remain the first line of defense. And this week, we saw a lot of us using the power of words to shore up our kids’ defenses.
In her Today piece, Kristin Shaw writes about talking to your kids about the world around them as often as you can. Socialization is as complicated as ever (for all of us, frankly), so it’s as vital as ever to talk it all through; otherwise, your kids can feel unequipped or unsupported and start acting antisocially.
Almost 30% of kids admit to having bullied someone else, and up to 60% (!) of kids who are bullied don’t report it. But if kids are tight-lipped about abuse, Catherine Pearson offers some helpful techniques to loosen them up.
Perhaps you’re hesitant to have discussions with your kids that seem too mature or difficult, which is fair. However, more often than not we’re the ones, the parents, that are overthinking it. Kids are smart. They get it. And sure, maybe the conversation is awkward or uncomfortable, but so is parenting. It’s part of the deal.
If you’re still unsure how to talk to your kid, consider this tip from Phyllis Fagell at The Washington Post: “Before engaging in conversation, assess whether you’re able to approach your child from a stance of curiosity, not criticism.
We’re a conference that’s all about inclusion, and we’re focused on helping our children become as empathetic, compassionate, and open to differentness as possible. Others will take the low road and use words as weapons, but if you’ve helped your kids build their own strength and convictions, those words will bounce right off.
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“Whether a child is explosive -acting out, having temper tantrums or public meltdowns-or implosive-becoming withdrawn, moody, and shut-down-living with unpredictability is hard.”
“The rules have nothing to do with learning; they have to do with keeping peace and order.”
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- “I swear that’s what that baseball field was directing me to see. This is her time. These are her moments to bottle up and remember.” — Creed Anthony; Baseball Field in the Failing Light Offers Father a Renewed View
- “I’m not sad that Harry has Autism. The unique way he experiences the world around him and the way his brain works is a big part of what makes him such an amazing human being.” — Aaron Sheldon; Our Everyday World
- “It is possible to love your children complete and simultaneously be exhausted by them.” — Charles M. Blow; Where Went My Empty Nest?
- “I know you’re going to feel uncomfortable, scared, awkward and so embarrassed you’ll think you can never face anyone ever again. These things can’t be helped; they’re simply a part of growing up.” — Jared Bilski; An Open Letter to My Son: Don’t Tough It Out When It Comes to Your Mental Health
- “As the years tick by, it’s like your heart picks up more and more microscopic cuts. Each of them alone is almost unnoticeable, but when they start to fuse together you finally see the trickle of blood.” — Andrew Knott; A Small Change to My Parenting Routine Brought Up Big Emotions
‘GRAM OF THE WEEK
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Originally published at https://www.dad2summit.com on August 23, 2019.